Tend is a private mental health and wellbeing companion. It helps you track your mood, journal your thoughts, practise therapeutic techniques like CBT and breathing exercises, build healthy habits, track mental health challenges, manage occasions and gift lists, and — if you're in a relationship — tend to your connection with a partner. Everything is designed to feel calm, private, and genuinely useful.

The Today dashboard is your home base. It surfaces your daily affirmation and intention, a quick mood check-in, and your habits. From there you can explore any of the tools — most people start with a mood check-in or a journal entry. The bottom navigation (or sidebar on desktop) gives you access to everything.

Yes. Go to Settings → Dashboard to show or hide widgets on your Today page — including stats, habits, sleep, garden, and more. The greeting, quick check-in, and crisis card are always visible.

Nobody except you. All your entries — journal, mood, chat, CBT, coping cards, mental health scores, occasion details — are stored in a private, authenticated database. No one at Tend can read your personal data. We do not sell or share it with any third party.

Yes. Sensitive fields are encrypted at rest using AES-256-GCM before being written to the database. Each user's data is encrypted with a unique per-user key derived via HKDF-SHA256 from the master key and your account ID — meaning your entries cannot be decrypted by anyone else's key, including other users or Tend staff. Data is also encrypted in transit via HTTPS/TLS.

Fields encrypted at rest include:

• Journal entries (title, body, AI reflection)
• Chat messages
• Mood notes
• CBT worksheets (situation, thoughts, reframe)
• Coping cards
• Gratitude entries
• Sleep notes
• Work reflections
• Diet log entries
• Safety plan content
• Partner question answers
• Relationship goal titles and descriptions
• Planner event titles and descriptions
• Mental health issue names and descriptions
• Mental health score log notes and triggers
• Occasion titles and notes
• Gift list item names
• AI personal context (your background, goals, substance history, partner name)
• Cycle log notes
• Illness log notes

The eye icon in the top bar activates Privacy Mode. When enabled, sensitive content on screen is blurred — useful if you're in a public space or sharing your screen. It doesn't affect what's stored; it's purely a visual privacy layer.

Yes. You can delete individual entries from within each tool. To delete your entire account and all associated data, go to Settings and use the account deletion option, or contact us. All data is permanently and irreversibly removed.

No. Your personal entries are never used to train any AI model — ours or any third party's. When the AI features are used, your message is sent to the AI provider (Anthropic or OpenAI) for that request only, under a data processing agreement that prohibits training.

Data is stored in a PostgreSQL database hosted in the EU (or your selected region). Authentication is handled by Clerk, payments by Stripe. See the full privacy policy for details.

Tend supports both Anthropic (Claude) and OpenAI (GPT-4o) models. You can switch your preferred provider in Settings → Profile. The choice doesn't affect your data or privacy — both are governed by the same data processing agreement.

Solo chat is your private AI companion — it has context about your mood, journal, and patterns (if you've opted in). Couples chat starts a shared session between you and your linked partner, mediated by the AI in a chosen therapeutic style (Gottman, EFT, Communication, or Trust & Repair). Both partners must be linked and on a Grow plan.

Within a session, the AI has the full conversation history. Between sessions, it doesn't retain memory automatically — each new chat starts fresh. However, if you enable 'Share mood with AI' in Settings, it will be given a brief summary of your recent mood and patterns at the start of each session.

No — and Tend doesn't claim to be. The AI is a supportive tool for reflection and coping, not a clinical service. If you're experiencing significant distress, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional. Tend's Safety Plan feature can help you prepare your own list of crisis contacts.

Yes. The AI companion can create, update, and delete planner events and habits on your behalf — just ask in natural language. For example: "Add a run to my planner for tomorrow at 7am", "Move my dentist appointment to Thursday", or "Delete the meditation habit". The AI will confirm what it changed.

Each check-in records your mood on a 1–5 scale (Very low → Thriving), your energy level, and optional tags (e.g. 'anxious', 'grateful', 'tired') plus a short free-text note. The whole thing takes about 30 seconds.

Once a day is the sweet spot for meaningful patterns. Most people check in in the morning or evening — whenever feels natural. You can log multiple entries on the same day if your mood shifts significantly.

Yes, if you enable 'Share mood with AI' in Settings. The AI is given a rolling summary of your recent mood and energy scores so it can offer more relevant support during chat sessions.

You can write freely or choose from a set of daily prompts. After you save an entry, the AI offers an optional short reflection — a few sentences that mirror back what you shared, without judgment. Entries are encrypted at rest and only you can read them.

Never. Journal entries are private to you and encrypted with AES-256-GCM. They are not shared with your partner even if you are linked, and are never used to train AI models.

Yes. Open any entry and use the delete option. Deletion is permanent and immediate.

Each day you can log three things you're grateful for — big or small. A regular gratitude practice is one of the most consistently replicated mood interventions in psychological research. Your entries are encrypted and can optionally be shared with a linked partner.

An intention is one thing you want to focus on or embody for the day — a value, a goal, or a way of showing up. It appears on your Today dashboard as a gentle reminder throughout the day. You can set a new one each morning.

Affirmations are short positive statements tailored to your mood, goals, and AI context. A new one appears on your Today dashboard each day. You can browse through extras or save favourites directly to your coping cards.

Ground is a quick-access hub for your grounding tools: breathing exercises, the CBT reframe worksheet, coping cards, and Growth Notes. It's designed to be your first stop when you're feeling overwhelmed or anxious.

Yes. The Physiological Sigh (double inhale through the nose, then a long exhale) is one of the fastest-acting evidence-based techniques for acute stress reduction. It's available in the Breathing tool and takes about 60 seconds.

Tend includes guided audio meditations with cinematic ambient soundscapes — from short 3-minute resets to longer deep relaxation and sleep sessions. Sessions use calm guided narration and work well with headphones or open speaker.

Session counts are tracked privately and contribute to your Insights stats (e.g. breathing sessions this month). Notes you add to any session are encrypted.

The Reframe tool guides you through a Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) worksheet step by step. You describe the situation, your automatic thought, and the emotion — then identify cognitive distortions and build a balanced reframe, with optional AI hints. It's a structured exercise for challenging unhelpful thinking, not a replacement for therapy.

Coping cards are your personal mental health first-aid kit. Each card contains a phrase, reminder, or technique that helps in a hard moment. Create your own or save ones suggested by the AI. All cards are encrypted at rest.

Growth Notes are short, evidence-based reads on topics like anxiety, CBT, sleep, self-compassion, and communication. They take 3–5 minutes and are written in plain language. Find them under Ground → Learn.

You create habits with a name, emoji, colour, and frequency (daily, weekdays, or custom days). Each day you tap to mark a habit complete. Tend tracks your streak — consecutive days completed — and shows it on your Today dashboard.

Your virtual garden grows based on your habit streaks. Each active habit you maintain contributes to a living visual garden that reflects your consistency over time. It's a gentle, positive representation of your progress — no punishment for missing days.

Yes. In the AI companion chat you can ask it to create, rename, or delete habits by name. For example: 'Add a daily habit to drink 2 litres of water' or 'Delete the evening reading habit'.

You log how many hours you slept and optionally add a note (e.g. dreams, disruptions, quality). Tend correlates this with next-day mood scores in Insights — showing whether your sleep reliably affects how you feel.

Only if you enable 'Share sleep with partner' in Settings → Partner. This is off by default.

You can note meals across the day — breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks — and optionally rate how each made you feel. It's not a calorie counter; it's a wellbeing-focused log designed to surface connections between nutrition and mood. All entries are encrypted.

Only if you enable 'Share diet with partner' in Settings → Partner. Off by default.

The work log lets you record shifts, hours worked, mood and energy during work, and a brief reflection. Set a weekly hours target and annual salary in Settings → Work to see earnings progress. The goal is to help you understand the relationship between work and your mental wellbeing.

Yes. In Settings → Work, add multiple roles. Each log entry can be tagged to a role so you can compare how different types of work affect your mood and energy.

The planner is a lightweight daily scheduler. Add events with a title, date, optional time, and description — they appear on your Today dashboard on the relevant day. The AI companion can create, reschedule, and delete events on your behalf via natural language in chat.

Yes. Event titles and descriptions are encrypted at rest using AES-256-GCM. Only you can read them.

The Mental Health Tracker lets you create personal 'health bars' for challenges you're working on — like defensiveness, anxiety, dark thoughts, or low motivation. Each bar shows a severity score from 0–100, with 0 meaning fully managed and 100 meaning severely impacting your life. You can log entries over time and watch the trend change as things improve or get harder.

Open Wellbeing → Mental Health and tap any health bar. Choose 'Log a score', set the number (0–100), and optionally add a note and what triggered it. The bar will update immediately and the history chart will reflect the new entry.

Yes. If you've opted in to share context with the AI, it is given a summary of your active health bars and recent scores. This lets it offer more relevant coping suggestions and notice patterns — for example, if your anxiety score has been rising over a few days.

Completely. Issue names, descriptions, score log notes, and trigger fields are all encrypted at rest using AES-256-GCM with your per-user key. This data is never shared with your partner (even if linked) and is not used for any purpose other than showing you your own history.

Occasions lets you track birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, and other special dates — with a countdown to the next occurrence. Each occasion can have a gift / shopping list so you can plan what to get and mark items as purchased.

When you mark an occasion as recurring, Tend automatically advances it to the next calendar year once the date passes. You never need to update the year — the countdown always shows days until the next occurrence.

Yes. Occasion titles (e.g. 'Mum's birthday'), notes, and all gift list item names are encrypted at rest with AES-256-GCM. Only you can read them.

Insights analyses your last 30 days of mood, energy, sleep, journal, CBT, and breathing data to surface patterns. You'll see mood over time, energy trends, day-of-week patterns, sleep-mood correlations, and tool usage stats.

Reflect generates a therapist-style written report from your recent entries — covering mood patterns, emotional themes from your journal, and areas of growth or concern. Reports are generated periodically and stored for you to re-read at any time.

The Insights page shows 30-day detail and up to 12 months of mood data in the year view. Reflect reports cover rolling periods and are stored indefinitely.

Your Circle lets you invite trusted friends to Tend so you can gently check in on each other. Friends can optionally see a summary of how you're doing (mood level only — not your entries) if you choose to share. It's a soft support network, not a social feed.

Go to Circle in the navigation and share your invite link or referral code. When they sign up using your code, you're connected. You can remove connections at any time from the Circle page.

The tracker counts every day, hour, and minute since you quit — whether that's smoking, alcohol, vaping, gambling, or anything else. You set your quit date and substance, and Tend tracks your progress continuously.

Tend celebrates key milestones: 24 hours, 1 week, 1 month, 3 months, 6 months, 1 year, and beyond. Each milestone shows a celebration message, and over time the tracker displays money saved and health benefits recovered.

Yes. You can log a craving in the moment and the AI companion will offer support, distraction techniques, and encouragement tailored to your journey. If you've shared substance history in Settings → AI, responses will be even more relevant.

You export a WhatsApp conversation from the WhatsApp app and upload it to Tend. The AI analyses the text for communication patterns, recurring arguments, positive moments, and emotional tone — giving you insight into your relationship dynamics without reading back thousands of messages.

Yes. Uploaded exports are associated with your account only. The other person in the conversation cannot see that you've uploaded or analysed it, and the content is not shared or used for any purpose other than generating your report.

In WhatsApp: open the conversation → tap the contact or group name → scroll down → 'Export chat' → choose 'Without media'. Save the .txt file to your device, then upload it on the WhatsApp Analyser page in Tend.

The Find a therapist tool searches the BACP and UKCP directory — the two main professional bodies for qualified therapists in the UK. Filter by location, specialism, and availability. The AI uses your profile context to suggest good matches, and generates a personalised draft message to send your chosen therapist.

The directory integration is currently UK-only (BACP/UKCP). Outside the UK, free-text search is still available but structured directory results won't appear.

Growth Notes are written in plain, accessible language grounded in peer-reviewed research and established therapeutic frameworks — including CBT, ACT, mindfulness, and attachment theory. They are evidence-informed reads, not clinical documents.

Cycle tracking is available to users who have set their gender to 'Female' in Settings → Profile. It won't appear in navigation for other users.

You can log period start and end dates, flow level, physical symptoms (cramps, bloating, headaches, etc.), mood, and a free-text note. Over time Tend surfaces your average cycle length to help you understand your phases.

In Settings → AI, you can share: your date of birth (for age-appropriate responses), your partner's name (used naturally in conversation), diagnosed mental health conditions (as context — not a diagnosis), substance history (encrypted), and a free-text background covering your life, goals, or anything you want the AI to know about you.

In Settings → Reminders, set a morning check-in reminder and an evening reflection reminder. Tend sends these as push notifications at your chosen time. Enable, change, or disable them at any time.

A safe word is a custom word that — when typed in the AI chat — immediately ends the session and takes you to your Safety Plan. It's a quick exit if a conversation becomes overwhelming or you need to ground yourself fast.

Auto-lock activates Privacy Mode (blurring sensitive content on screen) automatically after a set period of inactivity — 1, 5, or 15 minutes. Useful if you often leave Tend open. Set it in Settings → Security.

Yes. Go to Settings → Data to request a full export of your personal data — including mood logs, journal entries, habits, sleep, planner events, and other records — in a portable format.

Tend only sends notifications for things you've opted into: morning check-in reminders, evening reflection reminders, and — if linked to a partner — optional partner activity nudges. You control all of these in Settings → Reminders.

On first use, Tend will prompt you to allow notifications. If you dismissed that prompt, go to Settings → Reminders and tap 'Enable notifications' — this will re-prompt your device.

Go to Relationship and share your invite code or invite link with your partner. When they sign in and enter your code, you're linked. Both of you need a Tend account.

Only what you explicitly choose. In Settings → Partner, you can individually enable or disable sharing of: mood check-ins, sleep logs, meal logs, and gratitude entries. Shared goals, memories, and relationship events are always visible to both partners. Journal entries, CBT worksheets, and chat history are never shared.

Each day, both partners are shown the same question — about connection, dreams, values, communication, or intimacy. You each answer independently. The other person's answer is hidden until you've both responded, encouraging authentic and uninfluenced sharing. A new question cycles every day.

Yes, at any time. Go to Relationship → Partner connection → Unlink. Shared goals and memories are kept on record but no new ones can be added. Your private data is unaffected.

It's a composite score (0–100) calculated from four dimensions: shared goals progress, memories logged together, your partner's recent wellbeing signals (if shared), and overall connection activity. It's a reflective tool — not a clinical assessment — and is only visible to both partners together.

All core wellbeing tools are free: mood tracking, journaling, gratitude, intentions, affirmations, breathing exercises, coping cards, growth notes, habits, sleep, diet, planner, work logs, insights, and the relationship hub. The free plan includes a limited number of AI chat messages per month.

The Grow plan (paid) unlocks unlimited AI chat, Couples therapy chat, advanced AI journal reflections, the AI monthly relationship summary, and — where available — a real tree planted on your behalf each month. See the pricing page for current rates.

You can cancel at any time from your Stripe billing portal. Access it via Settings → Subscription. Your access continues until the end of the billing period.

The AI is trained to detect crisis signals (self-harm, suicidal ideation, abuse). When it does, it pauses the normal conversation and provides a dedicated safety response with crisis line numbers relevant to your country, as well as encouraging you to contact emergency services or a trusted person. It does not try to handle crisis situations itself.

The Safety Plan is a personal document you create in advance — your warning signs, what helps, who to call, and emergency contacts. It's based on the Stanley-Brown Safety Planning Intervention used by clinicians. Having a plan before a crisis makes it easier to act on it when you need it.

No. Tend is a personal wellbeing tool. It is not a medical device, a diagnostic tool, or a clinical service. It should not replace professional mental health care. If you are in distress or your symptoms are significantly affecting your daily life, please speak to a qualified professional.